Who’s Not Happy With Your Kung Fu, Anyway?

 

I hear it a lot, mostly from lower rank (although not always).  We’ll be in a workout or doing a form, the student will make a mistake, and will say something like, “Dang!  I’m sorry!” or “That was terrible.”, or some other derogatory remark about their kung fu.  Or I’ll just see that ‘look’ in their eyes; not the look of determination at trying to get a difficult move or the look of determined frustration (is that really a term?) at trying to remember a sequence and getting it wrong for the 20th time.  The ‘look’ that says, “I’m a failure” or “I’ve really screwed up and let the whole School along with 1600 years of ShaoLin tradition down and I ought to be beaten and kicked out on the street in the rain”  OK, maybe not that drastic, but you know what I mean.  I know what it looks like and feels like because I’ve been there, done that, got the t shirt, and lived to tell the tale (Thank you, Master Garry, for your patience).  When that happens, I really want to stop the student for a minute and just ask, “Who’s not happy with your kung fu, anyway?”  “Certainly not me.  Not the other instructors.  Not the rest of the students who are sweating and breathing hard and pushing themselves as hard as you are to get this right.  Who are you apologizing to, anyway?”   Now, I appreciate that you want to do well and get things right.  I love the fact that you’ve chosen be a part of our School to learn kung fu.  I really respect that you’ve chosen to study with one of the hardest working and toughest Schools in Western North Carolina.  I just wish you’d cut yourself a break and realize how much you’ve done, how far you’ve come, and where you’re going to be, if you stick with us.  I’m just tickled pink that you come to class and do all the sit ups, push ups, drills, punches, kicks, elbows, etc.  I’m happy that you bruise and laugh it off, get hit and ignore it, get kicked and act like it never happened.  Hey, who’s not happy with your kung fu, anyway?  If you need correction or instruction, a little motivation or a swift kick, I’ll be glad to provide it.  You focus on your kung fu and feel proud that you’re a part of our team.  Most people would never walk into our School, and those that do often walk out because they can’t hack it.  You’re still here.  Come back tomorrow and we’ll do it all over again.  No apologies next time, though.  Agreed?

SiFu Bob

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville   304 Waynesville Ave.  Asheville, NC 28806    828-775-9122

 

 

 

There Really Is A Difference!

I had a fun conversation recently with a good friend who studies a style of karate, one of the several that actually derived from ShaoLin during the diaspora when Chinese fled to Japan and began teaching a ‘Japanese-style’ version of a ShaoLin system (Isshen Ryu from ShaoLin White Crane, Shotokan from Tiger Claw, Shorin Ryu, which actually means ShaoLin style, etc).  The conversation was about the differences in our respective styles.  We were clear that we were comparing/contrasting real martial arts styles, as opposed to systems that are sport or trophy oriented, and that focused on selling contracts and making 6 year old black belts.  He showed me a couple of his forms; I showed him a couple of mine, we sparred a little.  It was a great time of learning and sharing.  His main comment to me about ShaoLin was, “There’s no pattern in your forms.  It all seems to flow into different movements and approaches, but there’s no pattern.”  My question to him was, “Do street fights or attempted rapes have patterns, or are they 7 seconds of chaos in which the defender has to do as much damage as possible, then get away?”  His forms displayed distinct patterns (punch, punch, kick, block, step right, repeat, turn around, repeat).  His body was rigid, his back straight, everything was precise.  It was fascinating to watch and that’s the way my friend likes his martial arts.  ShaoLin, on the other hand, is based on animal movements, is loose and flowing, moves this way, that way, turns and steps, always assuming multiple opponents.  As the animal changes in the form (and especially during sparring or an actual self defense encounter), speed, stepping and body mechanics change.  As my friend said, “There’s no pattern…”     We both ended up respecting the other’s arts, but also appreciating our own.  There’s no doubt.  If I were in a street encounter, I would want this guy by my side (if there were no ShaoLin people available, of course, J  )   There is also no doubt that there are multiple differences in our styles and approaches.  If you’re interested in trying a couple of  classes and experiencing the difference, feel free to call me or come by.  No sales pitch, no contract.  Just a lot of hard work.

Bob C.

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville

619 Haywood Rd.  Asheville, NC  28806

sifubob@bellsouth.net   828-775-9122

Give your kid some credit.

It happens way too frequently; even once is too much.  We’ll get a young student who begins to thrive and do well.  They learn stances, body control, respect, how to punch and kick.  They come to class, have a great time, and begin to get some “BooYahs” from staff and other students.  Then (and I’ve seen it so often and I just don’t understand), I or another staff will tell the parent how well the child is doing.  Just as a smile begins to open up on the kids face and they begin to stand a little straighter, the parent will say something like, “Well, I wish he’d work that hard at home.” or “Yep, she’s OK, but she really needs to put a little more effort into those warm ups.”  You can watch a kid deflate and lower those eyes in a heartbeat when the one who is supposed to love and uplift suddenly says something negative about their child in front of the instructor.  Of course, I really want to say something like, “Well, why don’t you get your fat, lazy, cheetos-filled a## on the mat beside your kid twice a week and see how well you do”, but I know it wouldn’t help a bit, so I don’t.  I usually just say something like, Well’ he’s doing a super job here and we’re glad to have him as a student.”  Parents:  Don’t Do That!!!!!   If one of our instructors pays your child a compliment, say something like, “Thanks for telling me that.  We’re really proud of how well she’s doing, too.”  Or how about, “Heck, yeah!  I bet I couldn’t do what he does in a million years.  He’s really come a long way.”  If you tell me how great your kid is, that might be bragging.  If I tell you how great your kid is, and you agree, especially in front of them, that’s showing love, respect, and being a good parent.  If you ever doubt how hard our School is, or how much effort your kiddo is putting forth on that mat every week, try a class or two sometime.  I bet you’ll never say anything negative about your child’s kung fu again.

Bob C.

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville  619 Haywood Rd  Asheville, NC 28806

828-775-9122

Everybody doesn’t want to make a full commitment, sooooo…..

for those looking for a way to stay active and involved in something physical during the summer break, we’re offering our first Summer Special. Anyone who signs up and pays for June and July will not have to pay the $45.00 sign on fee; just the tuition. PM me or call at 828-775-9122 for tuition costs (based on age). As always, we start with two free lessons. No sales pitch; just a lot of hard work. Get in shape or stay in shape this summer.

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville  619 Haywood Rd.  Asheville, NC 28806

828-775-9122

Walk a Mile in High Heels???

We did it again (for the fourth year in a row).  Men (real men, of course) from our School donned hot heels and walked a mile in downtown Asheville to raise awareness and funds for OurVoice, the local sexual assault crisis organization.  We joined about 500 other men who took a stand (and for a couple, a fall) against sexual violence.  Rape affects EVERYONE, whether you are a victim, a friend or family of a victim, or whether you live in a society that allows or ignores the fact that 1 out of 5 women will be sexually assaulted in some way in their lifetimes.  And, since the majority of perpetrators are male, we are the ones who have to speak up!  That’s why ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville was a proud sponsor of Walk a Mile in Her Shoes this year.  My shiny red pumps are back in the closet for now, but I’m looking forward to next year already :)

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville

619 Haywood Rd  Asheville, NC 28806

828-775-9122    sifubob@bellsouth.net

 

Our Primary and Secondary Purpose

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville is a martial arts school in West Asheville.  We teach people how to defend themselves against crazy people, dates gone bad, rapists, muggers, idiots who can’t control themselves or live by simple rules of an intelligent society, etc.  That’s what we teach.  The method is by learning the techniques from the ShaoLin Temples of China and learning how to incorporate these techniques and methods into our modern world.  We hit, kick, knee, use weapons, and practice as realistically as we can AND as new students can tolerate. We don’t have trophies lining our walls and we won’t teach you how to win a ribbon in a tournament.  Tournaments are OK for some people, although systems and schools that teach tournament skills tend to not prepare people for real life attacks and problems.  Most rapists, bullies, and dates gone bad don’t follow rules and regulations.  We teach self defense. That’s the art of ShaoLin Kung Fu.  That’s our primary purpose.

That being said, we also see lots of secondary benefits when we follow the ShaoLin program.  We lose weight, we get healthy, we learn focus, patience, diligence, and perseverance.  We get hooked up with one of the hardest working group of martial artists in Western Carolina.  We gain a whole new perspective on life and the world around us.  If we come in afraid, we learn courage.  If we come in boisterous and arrogant, we learn humility and how to be kind.  If we come in knowing everything, we learn just how little we truly know.  People find a spiritual direction and connection.  We become different people.

The caveat, though, is that these things happen, almost by accident, only as we pursue the primary purpose.  So many ‘martial arts’ schools have this reversed and advertise that they teach discipline, focus, yadda yadda yadda, and barely mention the martial (having to do with war or combat) element.  Perhaps they want to appeal to people who want the benefits without having to actually work hard.  ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville is unabashedly a martial arts school. If you come to us, you will participate in the primary purpose.  Otherwise, you’ll choose to leave.  You’ll also notice that as you diligently pursue the primary purpose, the whole new wonderful world of Purpose Number 2 will slowly but surely open up to you.  Purpose Number 1, God willing, I will never have to actually use again.  Purpose Number 2, I am blessed by God to live every minute of every day.  Come try us out, but be prepared to work on our primary purpose.

Bob C.

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville  619 Haywood Road,  Asheville, NC 28806

828-775-9122

And yet another example of the present state of the martial arts in America…

I got a notice a couple of days ago about another “Hall of Fame” banquet where you nominate yourself or somebody else, send them some money, and you get the opportunity to pay more money for a banquet, get a certificate, a pin, probably a patch, and a picture made with all the other Hall of Fame honorees.  I get them all the time.  They usually are sponsored by yet another “Grandmaster” or Exalted Grandmaster of some system that already has multiple grandmasters in different parts of the country (or city).   Then you are able to say that you’re a member of the SomethingSomething Martial Arts Hall of Fame and you can put that on all your advertising along with a picture of your certificate and your patch.  How cool is that?

Is that what the martial arts in America have come to?  Apparently so, since I get these invitations all the time.  A few more, and I might start thinking that I really am a famous martial artist….maybe not!

I would like to think that our School is part of another Hall of Fame, and I also have plenty of evidence to back it up.  We didn’t get this nomination due to what we paid to somebody or some organization. .  We got it due to what we do, day in and day out.  That Hall of Fame is called the “I’ve heard about your School” Hall of Fame.  (Please note, this isn’t about me.  This is about our School and the reputation we have in our community.) 

When students come to our School and get healthy, lose weight, get fit and strong, word get around.  When students learn how to defend themselves physically (aka ‘fight’), word gets around.  When we don’t even know that we’re in the running for the ‘Best Of’ category in a local publication (so I never tell my students to go on-line and vote for us), and we place first or second year after year, that puts us in the Hall of Fame.  When a teacher at another martial arts school in another county tells a mutual friend that ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville is the hardest hitting martial arts school in Asheville, that means that word is getting around.  When we get referrals from counselors, therapists, county social service workers, treatment centers, etc., saying that they’ve heard about our School, that’s another nomination.  When our students become martial artists in the truest sense of the words,  word gets around.  And, truth be told, when someone comes to a class and just can’t hack it, or joins up then leaves shortly afterwards and tells all their friends that it was too hard, or too intense, or they got hurt, or (yep, I’ve been told this too,)  “Those people are crazy in there.”, that adds to our reputation and entitles us to the Hall of Fame.  I’ll probably continue to throw away the invitations to be inducted into a hall of fame, just like I ignore offers to be ordained as a minister in a phony church or hook up with “beautiful  mature Russian women who want that correspond with you to for friendship.”   Maybe I’ll just keep opening the doors and getting a good workout with the best and hardest working group of Hall of Famers I have ever met.  If you want to join us, get in touch.  No nomination needed.

Bob

ShaoLin Kung Fu Of Asheville

619 Haywood Rd.  Asheville, NC 28806

828-775-9122

Grandmaster Bob?!?!?! What are the martial arts, anyway?

I was recently sent an invitation on Facebook to ‘friend’ a grandmaster here in North Carolina.  He had a distinctly American name (which was confusing since ‘grandmaster’ is a title given to a founder or heir to a system.  Perhaps anyone can call themselves grandmaster these days, but I digress.)  I looked on his FB page and saw a picture of him posing with his high ranking students.  I was struck with the fact that each and every one of them appeared to be grossly overweight, so much so that their gi’s were too small for their more than ample physiques.

I also saw a video that’s almost viral of a black belt test where several people spar to some really funny background music, then a bunch of black belts do a form, etc.  Why would a black belt sparring test and a forms demonstration go viral as a hilarious Youtube video?  Is there something wrong with the martial arts these days?

I’m certainly not saying that every student of the martial arts has to have a perfect physique or must execute forms with precision, power, and snap, but I am saying that the true practice of true martial arts will produce people of above average physical shape, who should be able to punch, kick, step, move, and fight in such a way that it’s obvious that they have studied a true martial art.  Anyone looking for a martial arts school, check out a class or two before they make you do a private lesson with just the teacher or school owner.  If you see black belts who are obviously not physically fit, have no body control, or (all too often) are 6 or 7 years old, you might want to look elsewhere, unless what you’re looking for is an easy workout, a piece of cloth to tie around your waist, and the opportunity to say that you “take” a martial art.  As always, anyone is welcomed to come to ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville, participate in a couple classes, and make up your mind.  I promise that we’ll show you true, traditional kung fu.

(NOT Grandmaster) Bob  :)

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville  619 Haywood Rd.  828-775-9122

Fall is Here!!!

Fall is here and the cool weather is a welcome relief.   We have lots of stuff going on over the next few months.  Please make a note of it and get the full ‘bang’ of your ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville membership.

1.      Be the first on your block to own the fashionable new hoodie blah blah blah  :) By popular request, we are ordering hoodies with the new logo.  The cost is $35.00  They are black pullovers with a front pocket. You must pre-order.  See Sue

2.      Parent Week is November 4, 5, and 7.  Come and work out with your child and experience what they do week in and week out.  Good bonding experience!  (We did have a parent a few years ago who used to ‘coach’ from the sidelines until he did a Parent Week class.  Afterwards, he said rather emphatically that he would never again say anything negative about his child’s kung fu).  Wear a t shirt, some loose, long pants, and a pair of comfortable shoes.  As always, just plan to do your best.  We will have oxygen available.  :)

3.      We are now teaching Chen T’ai Chi Thursday evenings from 6:00 until 6:45.  No cost to members, $30.00 for non-members. The last Tuesday of every month upper rank class we will take some time and do the t’ai chi form, so that staff can also learn the Chen form.

4.      No class on Thanksgiving.  I know it’s not a Chinese holiday, but my mother won’t let me have class.

5.      Payment coupons for January through June will be available after Thanksgiving.

6.      The annual superfun Christmas Party will be at the School December 7th from 5:00ish to 8:00ish.  Feel free to bring anything foodwise that you would like.  We’ll supply soda, coffee, other fingery food, and the infamous doughnut mountain, and LOTS of chocolate.  I promise to feed your children all the doughnuts and chocolate that they can stand, then I’ll turn my phone off until noon the next day.  This is a family party, so plan to bring kids, parents, and family pets (OK, maybe not family pets).

7.      No class on Christmas Eve or Christmas day.  Enjoy the time and the rest.

 

See you all in class!!!!

ShaoLin Kung Fu of Asheville   sifubob@bellsouth.net   828-775-9122

I Love My Kung Fu Family.

This was an incredible week of changes.  I cannot even begin to express how I feel about the test yesterday.  All the kids put their hearts, punches, kicks, and minds into it and looked great.  Lower rank adults, what a crew.  You guys rocked.  To Jeremy, Samantha, and Mary.  Words cannot describe what it feels like to watch you guys reach this goal that has taken from 6 to 10 years to accomplish.  Anyone who has been to our School, even for a short while, will have some idea of how grueling a black sash test is, and the cost of getting to the starting gate of even beginning the test.  No one gets there alone, and for each of you, your family, kung fu friends, jobs, etc., all contributed to what happened yesterday.  Master Garry was pretty happy at the end of the evening, and I’m still buzzing over watching you all.  Last but never least, my beloved wife Sue tested up to Second Degree Black Friday night with Master Garry.  Although I was somewhat occupied, I did get a chance to watch part of her test.  YOU ARE INCREDIBLE!!  Even got a few punches and kicks in on Master Garry.  I did see the front kick to his …..  :)   You run the School, do all the paperwork, supervise the kids class, and have time to train.  When Mary Osada calls you the kung fu Energizer Bunny, that’s something special!  You are totally my hero!  What a family, what a School.  I love you all.   Be there Monday.  We have class at 7:00   :0

828-775-9122    sifubob@bellsouth.net   619Haywood Rd  Asheville, NC 28806